Parents in Worcester already know that children should be able to learn and grow without having to deal with adult anxieties. After all, when parents constantly argue in front of their children, it can have long-lasting effects on the kids’ outlook.

Unfortunately, there are instances when parents may unwittingly use their children as pawns in a child custody dispute. It is almost certain that divorcing parents will have to endure grief and loss because of the dissolution of a marriage, but parents should also keep in mind how their children may be affected by spousal arguments.

After a child custody arrangement is made, it can still be difficult for one parent to see the other face-to-face when picking up or dropping off for a planned visitation. However, with today’s technological advances, parents can avoid these touchy moments. Many people have found that e-mail is the best way to communicate and avoid fighting in front of the kids.

Sitting down to compose a message can be a much calmer way to communicate with a former spouse. You have the time to breathe and think about what you want to say. Texting is another way to avoid face-to-face disputes, but e-mail is likely the best method of calmly and completely addressing any issues that arise regarding custody and visitation.

Children shouldn’t feel torn between two parents, and finding a way to cooperate is the key to successful co-parenting. Divorcing parties in Massachusetts may want to consider how communication technology will play a role in their child custody arrangement.

Source: The New York Times, “Kramer.com vs. Kramer.com,” Pamela Paul, Nov. 23, 2012