Massachusetts parents like you want to provide the best for your child. This remains true even if you and your co-parent decide to get a divorce. Above all else, you want to ensure that your child remains happy, healthy and safe.

Is there any way to ensure that this happens even in the midst of a divorce? Fortunately, there are ways of upholding what is in your child’s best interest while going through a split.

The role a mediator plays

Divorce Magazine looks at amicable divorce, an option in which you and your co-parent work together during the divorce process. The split does not necessarily have to feel “friendly”, but it is always civil. There are no yelling matches, petty arguments or attempts to bring each other down.

There are many ways in which couples achieve this. It is common to hire a mediator, for example. Their job is to help you work through matters of divorce in a civil and calm way. They offer guidance and opinions, ensure that both of you have your voices heard, and step in if arguments get out of hand.

Achieving stability through cooperation

In choosing to work together during your divorce, you provide your child with a sense of stability. With divorce, everything they knew before is about to change and they know it. This fear of the unknown often fuels most of a child’s negative feelings about divorce. Working with your co-parent shows your kid that you are still able to set aside differences, cooperate, and provide them with what they need.

Studies also show that children in joint custody situations often have fewer mental health struggles. By providing that continued stability and foundation, you are helping your kid adjust.