A divorce can be an extremely disruptive and distressing event for a couple’s young children. No matter what is happening in the parents’ relationship during the divorce process, they have to work together to minimize the potential harm that their children may experience.
A proactive approach to supporting children during a divorce is typically the best course of action. Parents need to be conscientious about potential ramifications before they occur in order to address them as effectively as possible.
Children are likely to have a lot of questions about divorce. If possible, parents should try to address them together.
Conversations should be meaningful and interactive. Parents should avoid simply repeating the same scripted phrases to answer every question.
Children’s day-to-day routines may change drastically. Parents have to consider what they can do to maintain some normalcy and consistency. Keeping children engaged in the activities that they most enjoy may be helpful.
Setting a new routine quickly may also be advantageous. Developing a new regular schedule and sticking to it can prevent children from feeling as though everything is in turmoil.
Facilitate regular communication
Suddenly seeing less of one parent even for just part of the week can be anxiety-provoking for children. Make lots of opportunities to check-in. Frequent one-on-one time can make a big difference.
Ultimately, a collaborative effort to support children during a divorce can make it easier for them to cope with. Getting through a difficult adjustment period as a team may help lay important groundwork for good ongoing co-parenting in the future.