It is likely that there is some level of bad feelings between you and your ex-spouse. After all, it is likely that they are your ex-spouse for a reason (or several reasons). However, if you and your ex-spouse have joint custody of any children, you will need to find a way to communicate effectively with them.
Particularly if your recent means of “communication” has been angry fighting, the idea of continuing to keep contact with your ex-spouse might sound harrowing. However, there are ways to move the focus from the relationship between you and your ex-spouse to the relationship that you both have as parents to your children. According to Divorce Mag, you should carefully consider your communication options to minimize conflict and always keep the focus first on the kids.
Communication approach matters
You may have some success by trying to reimagine your ex-spouse as a co-worker. After all, that is the basis of your relationship and moving forward: focusing on the needs of the kids. To this end, you might benefit from only communicating with your ex-spouse through more professional mediums, like email.
Communicating through email will remove the onus of needing to respond immediately. You will be able to take the time to cool down if your ex-spouse writes something that makes you angry.
Focus on your kids
Remember that now that your marriage is over, the only thing that you need to talk to your ex-spouse about is your children. Only communicate with your ex-spouse if it involves something directly having to do with your children.